The Secret

So im reading this book called " The Secret", by  Paul Harrington, And basically it tells you that the world is pretty much controlled by thought or the Law of attraction;whatever you think about, you attract "like attracts like" i guess you could say. And i read a chapter on the secret to relationships and thought id post it here because its actually pretty cool.

" Whether we like to admit it or not, most of us want the love and respect from everyone around us. It's all about that tribal vibe, that feelings of fitting in, of belonging, of being loved. But for many people, reality strikes and life doesnt always play out the way we might have hoped.

Have you ever felt misunderstood and alone?

And are there moments when you say to yourself "why doesn't anyone get me?"

And does it get sometimes seem like your parents have no clue what problems you're dealing with?

And does it get to the point where you think you could just bail out and no-one would notice?

Sadly, many people feel that way. Maybe you do right now, or you have in the past.

But now that you know THE SECRET, you can totally flip the script, tapping the law of attraction to attract new and more exciting relationships. And you can also heal and rebuild existing relationships- even the ones that have blown apart or drifted away. Truth is, your relationships either work or they don't work because of the major reason; the thoughts you hold in your head. 


When we're feelings disrespected, unloved, and miserable, its normally a one-way ticket to lonely street. I mean, who likes to be around anyone who's miserable? You'd think no one, right? Wrong! Other miserable people do.. because misery loves company. 


Remember, the law of attraction is always working. So when we feel sorry for ourselves, we attract other downers who feel sorry for themselves. People who whine about stuff love nothing more than finding others to have a pity party with. 


You have to get out of these situations as quickly as possible because you can never change anything by complaining. In fact, you simply get more of the stuff that you're complaining about!

So the first step is to change your tune- quit the drama and stop spreading your own misery. As for your pity-party pals; they're not helping you and you cant help them. Well, not unless you're a qualified emo-therapist.

You're the only one who can heal your own issues with self-esteem. Shift your focus to feeling good within yourself, and you'll naturally attract positive people and positive relationships into your life. And you'll also be well on the way to attracting the love and respect you're craving. It makes perfect sense to think about- to find love you have to be love. You've got to feel it within yourself before others feel it for you.

Self-confidence is just filling yourself up with love and feeling good about you. Want proof? Check it out...

You may have noticed that at every party, gathering, or social situation you're in, that the most confident guy in the room is surrounded by girls and guys the minute he walks in the door. Why is that? It's because he projects himself. He's having fun, and, most important, he's fun to be around. So he attracts a crowd- Its magnetic.

But how did this guy get so confident? Well, no doubt he would have started with just one good thought about himself, and it grew from there. As for all guys and girls surrounding him, they're all attracted by his confidence, charisma, and self-respect. Don't you see, they love him because he loves him.

And this is one of the biggest secrets of the lot. Most people think happiness and being cool comes from the love and respect of others. They seek out love and respect of others. They seek out love and respect to make themselves happy and to feel cool. But that's backward. You make yourself  happy, and that attracts love and respect. Look for the positives inside you and focus on those things with appreciation, and then radiate that vibe. Then step back and feel the love."