The Secret

So im reading this book called " The Secret", by  Paul Harrington, And basically it tells you that the world is pretty much controlled by thought or the Law of attraction;whatever you think about, you attract "like attracts like" i guess you could say. And i read a chapter on the secret to relationships and thought id post it here because its actually pretty cool.

" Whether we like to admit it or not, most of us want the love and respect from everyone around us. It's all about that tribal vibe, that feelings of fitting in, of belonging, of being loved. But for many people, reality strikes and life doesnt always play out the way we might have hoped.

Have you ever felt misunderstood and alone?

And are there moments when you say to yourself "why doesn't anyone get me?"

And does it get sometimes seem like your parents have no clue what problems you're dealing with?

And does it get to the point where you think you could just bail out and no-one would notice?

Sadly, many people feel that way. Maybe you do right now, or you have in the past.

But now that you know THE SECRET, you can totally flip the script, tapping the law of attraction to attract new and more exciting relationships. And you can also heal and rebuild existing relationships- even the ones that have blown apart or drifted away. Truth is, your relationships either work or they don't work because of the major reason; the thoughts you hold in your head. 


When we're feelings disrespected, unloved, and miserable, its normally a one-way ticket to lonely street. I mean, who likes to be around anyone who's miserable? You'd think no one, right? Wrong! Other miserable people do.. because misery loves company. 


Remember, the law of attraction is always working. So when we feel sorry for ourselves, we attract other downers who feel sorry for themselves. People who whine about stuff love nothing more than finding others to have a pity party with. 


You have to get out of these situations as quickly as possible because you can never change anything by complaining. In fact, you simply get more of the stuff that you're complaining about!

So the first step is to change your tune- quit the drama and stop spreading your own misery. As for your pity-party pals; they're not helping you and you cant help them. Well, not unless you're a qualified emo-therapist.

You're the only one who can heal your own issues with self-esteem. Shift your focus to feeling good within yourself, and you'll naturally attract positive people and positive relationships into your life. And you'll also be well on the way to attracting the love and respect you're craving. It makes perfect sense to think about- to find love you have to be love. You've got to feel it within yourself before others feel it for you.

Self-confidence is just filling yourself up with love and feeling good about you. Want proof? Check it out...

You may have noticed that at every party, gathering, or social situation you're in, that the most confident guy in the room is surrounded by girls and guys the minute he walks in the door. Why is that? It's because he projects himself. He's having fun, and, most important, he's fun to be around. So he attracts a crowd- Its magnetic.

But how did this guy get so confident? Well, no doubt he would have started with just one good thought about himself, and it grew from there. As for all guys and girls surrounding him, they're all attracted by his confidence, charisma, and self-respect. Don't you see, they love him because he loves him.

And this is one of the biggest secrets of the lot. Most people think happiness and being cool comes from the love and respect of others. They seek out love and respect of others. They seek out love and respect to make themselves happy and to feel cool. But that's backward. You make yourself  happy, and that attracts love and respect. Look for the positives inside you and focus on those things with appreciation, and then radiate that vibe. Then step back and feel the love."

The rest is still unwritten

Memories; they are things you loved, things you keep close in your heart because you don't ever want to forget them; Or maybe it isn't that you don't want to forget them, its that you don't want them to forget you. All of us are scared of the future, scared of growing up and failing at our lives. Scared of being forgotten. And that's why we look back, we remember moments when we were happy, when we felt whole. And to a point, it makes us feel like if things were okay then, they can be okay now, or be okay someday. But why should something that already happened make you so miserable today? We, as people hold onto the past, and why shouldnt we? The past lets us know that at one point in our lives, we were happy, and i think that eventually as the past gets farther and farther away, the more we try to hold onto it, the more we try and make the past the present. Your memory is a weird thing, it lets you go back in time almost, whenever you close your eyes, your mind easily lets you replay every word, every sound, every second. And sure, that's a good thing to some, but to others, it brings back times that quite frankly, you would love to have completely washed from your existence. And that's where flashbacks come into play, and nightmares and anxiety. Because as much as you try to forget your past; there it is, laughing it up that you cant get it to go away. But i think that as much as sometimes you want to just forget a person, or a moment in time, its good that its still there somewhere, because as much as you wish you hadn't done this or done that, when it all comes down to it, if you didn't have your past, what would you have to learn from to be where you are today? "Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment." And after all, the rest is still Unwritten.

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- I go by Alli

Lexi Hayes speaks

Hi everyone; Alli here, I've reserved some space here for one of my good friends Lexi Hayes to post what shes been wanting to clarify for a while now; it takes a lot to post something like this so lets give her the respect she deserves.

Hey guys! Im trying to take a step. Everyone asks me all the time "What happened to me?" "Where were you this year?" "What is going on in your life?"

SO. I don't reallly know if this is a great idea or not..but I'm going to share some of the REAL story. None of these made up little rumors that got around. I told a few people..who told more people. Shocker right? I was kinda stupid.

Anyway, here it is.

          My life was so good. I loved horses and singing. I had average grades. I was a little naive 6th grader. Everything was PERFECT. Till one night in like november of my 6th grade year..my life was turned upside down, inside out and crumbled. I was abused. Sexually. By my older cousin. He was my bestfriend. I thought he always had my back. Little did I know he was just setting me up so he could take advantage of me. Well this whole abuse thing..went on for a full 10 months about. I kept it a secret. I had too. Can you imagine telling your parents somthing like that? Specially cause it was a family member. Well.. during that year of secrets. He probably did shit to me..8 times. Which is a lot. Everything was a disaster. I had a fake smile, fake laugh, fake appetite. I was F A K E. Nobody knew. My grades were dropping, my appetite was gone, my "lets hang out every minute of every day" attitude was gone. I cried myself to sleep every night. I was so un happy. I blamed myself for the whole thing. I thought i was absolutely disgusting. It was so bad.

I finally told. It was so crazy. All of the sudden..I never ever ever had to see him again. BUT I had appointments with detectives,police,therapists,doctors. Stuff was just hectic. I was very uncomfortable. Things in my life were not what a 12 year old should have to deal with. I had to grow up so fast.

With abuse and trauma comes flashbacks,nightmares,depression,PTSD,self esteem issues,trust issues,self value issues and so much more. I had all of those. And they DONT.GO.AWAY. Sometimes..you'll have weeks when you are fine. Others, it's alll back to where you started. I made really stupid mistakes to make myself feel better. I ruined my body. I thought about ending it daily. My life was a never ending rollercoaster. Not good when you are entering highschool.

      SOOO. To answeer everyone's questions..This year I was working on me,myself,and I. Without some of the hassle of daily freshman life. And i am slowly getting better. There is alot of bad days. But if you really knew me..You would see I have changed so much. Im finally accepting what happened and moving on.

I want to enter my second freshman year (yes, I am staying back) as a new person. Lexi Hayes. Not a depressed, victim. I am okay. This is me. This is my life. I have scars but no open wounds. I am moving on.

This all is just part of my S T O R Y.

AND GUYS. This really, honestly is NO way to get attention. This is to close up everything. This is my new start. Closure is all i want.

I will answer any questions you want too message me,k? kay.

K. Bye.

-Lex

if you really knew me

i just watched the new series " if you really knew me" on Mtv and im honestly a different person, watch it! tuesdays @ 11!

give it up

Sometimes it hurts to walk away
To give up something that means so much
But sometimes walking away is what
You have to do to get back to
The happiest you used to have

In this world,you are told everyday to keep going, to try harder, to do better, run faster, finish this, perfect that. Its a never ending cycle of doing what we are bred not to do; give-up. Since you were little you were always told to fight for what you believe in. Because if you give-up, you'll lose it. But what if what you're fighting to keep is already long gone? Is there a point in fighting and fighting and fighting for something that isn't going to come back? or should you just let go of everything you believe in and throw in the towel.During the course of 7 months, i have been fighting for what i feel in my heart is whats meant to be. And thats what i'm supposed to do right? Im told over and over again that no matter what i do, never give-up on something, someone, you can't go a day without thinking about. But what if, in order to get better, in order to heal, You need to walk away, what if you have to just wing it and see what happens. What if for once in your life, in order to make your life better, you need to stop trying altogether.

Now i know it sounds ludacris, but making yourself feel like an idiot each and everyday by keeping at something until your insides hurt, until every bone in your body is done. until all your emotions just build and build and build and bubble over; its stupid. Now answer me this, What does that do for you? Because personally, if you're working at something with all your might, and no matter how hard you try, how hard you cry, you dont get what you were looking for. Wouldnt it just be easier to just stop. Because sometimes if you walk away from something. Or if you let it be for a little while, eventually it might come back. Im not promising it will. Because even i dont have the strength to do it, because im scared; scared that if i stop trying, every memory, everything i worked for, everything i built will be forgotten. But i think for once in my life, for once in 7 months, im going to finally do what i promised myself, promised my friends, promised him i wouldnt ever do. Im going to give-up, and hey, maybe its stupid, but a lot of things are, we'll just wait and see, wont we?

- I go by Alli
10:50 pm

Gandhi said that whatever you do in life will be insignificant, but
it's very important that you do it because nobody else will. Like
when someone comes into your life and half of you says: "You're
nowhere near ready". And the other half says: "Make her yours forever".
-- Remember Me.

- I go by Alli

I'm sorry but I just can't do it anymore. I can't keep letting you
think that it's alright for you to waltz in and out of my life when it's
convenient for you. It's just not right, and it hurts so much. It's like
this never-ending cycle. You brush me off, make me feel like such
a fool for caring. And then you come right back and well.. I welcome
you with open arms. And I'm so sick of this continuous hurting and the
fact that you keep getting whatever it is that you want while I'm stuck
here in a place I don't want to be. Trying to hold it in but losing it and
finding myself a crying mess in front of the people I care most about.
It's pathetic. I only ever had half of you, less even, so I guess I'll cope.

- I go by Alli

No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for
someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them
and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing.
Being lonely, being alone, for many people, sucks. I get it, I get it,
I get it. But still I have to say that yes, my belief is that being with
somebody who makes you feel shitty or doesn't honor the person
you are is worse. Life is hard enough as it is without choosing
someone difficult to share it with. You deserve to be with someone
who is nice to you all the time.

- I go by Alli

rawr

I normally get over people really easily, like if i dont see them for a while, but him.. i havent seen in in over 3 months and my feelings just keep getting stronger. that has to mean something, right?

and i'll applaud you as you fall

if the slipper fits

And they lived happily ever after.the most overused words in our childhood story books, ironic isn't it how when your growing up, that happy ending always seems so far away. Those cookie cutter lives like Cinderella and Snow White, that mom used to read to you every night before bed, implanting that idea-that image, that every thing you do, every move you make will end up with a perfect ending, but outside of Cinderella's castle, things don't work that way. There are so many moments in our lives, billions and billions of them, and yet,most of us, if not all seem to have outlined the bad ones with a big highlighter. Our ability to remember is unbelievable, the way you can take a fact, a place, a person and put it into your head forever, now that is something remarkable. Our memories though,are put to use for a number of things, but i think that usually people seem to remember bad things more than good things. When you remember someone from your past who isn't there anymore, whats the very first thing that comes to your mind? not the thousands of good times you had together, the laughs and the smiles, but rather "what went wrong?" what horrible life altering thing could have driven you apart? That is whats wrong. I personally find it much simpler to think about, write about, talk about the bad things in my life, the times when im upset,or times when i was personally mortified, we laugh about embarrassing moments, and joke about how nerdy we were as kids, but how often does something like how nice and generous we were when we were little come up in a conversation between friends. We find humor in our bad moments rather than just talking about good ones instead. And i think personally that everyone finds it easier to remember one really bad thing about someone instead of all the millions of great little things about them. Like how fat he was, or how many rumors she spread, instead of remembering how great he was at making me smile or how funny she was. Its all about those moments where we had downfalls or made a mistake, its usually not the all the good things that happened that make the difference, its the one bad thing that changed everything. What do you think gossip is? People dont care what a good person someone is, they care about who got drunk last weekend or who slept with whats his face. I guess what im trying to say is that the world should just have a major wake up call and become real for a change. Stop listening to all the stupid pointless bad stuff about someone and focus on something good about them. Personally, im sick of writing about how much my life sucks. and it pisses me off that, that is all i can write about. So for now, ill have some good memories and remember those instead.

-Alli

I'm not saying there wasn't nothing wrong, I just didn't think you'd ever get tired of me

a·lone

(adj) Being without anyone or anything else; only.

Synonyms: alone, lonely, lonesome, solitary

These adjectives describe lack of companionship. Alone emphasizes being apart from others and on occasion, implies unhappiness.

(AC is Alaina Corsini, AD is Alli D'amico)

AC: I think there are a lot of pains in this world. You get hurt all the time, physically and emotionally. Most pain comes from other people. A boy breaks your heart, or a friend breaks your trust. But then there comes a point when you realize, that after a while, it’s not anyone else hurting you. It’s yourself.

AD: Loneliness is that point in your life when you realize that no matter what you do, or how hard you cry, you’re in this by yourself. That knight in shining armor is no longer there to sweep you off your feet and save you from yourself. Being alone, isn't lacking friends, or people to lean on, its that moment when you realize that no amount of shoulders to cry on can help you. It that second when you think to yourself. nobody understands me.

AC: At some point in our lives, someone leaves us. Someone leaves us who we never thought would leave. There’s that one person that you put all your trust in leaves. It’s like they’re your everything, so when your gone you have nothing. Your lonely. Your alone. The feeling stays there too, it doesn’t just go away. Every day theres a little feeling there. Or an object, or something that reminds you that the person is gone. That your by yourself, your alone.

AD: People come in and out of our lives every single day. But occasionally, someone walks into your life.. and they stay there. Your life not only revolves around you now, suddenly your life is meshing with someone else's, becoming one. Love does that. But you know what else love does? Love destroys you. It destroys who you used to be. And it crushes your dreams. You become so fixated on this one person, this “love of your life” that you convince yourself that hey, maybe he's the one. And when the moment comes when you have to come to the realization that “the one” is gone, your body gives up, it decides that without this other person it is impossible that you should ever even bother looking for someone else. And that for the rest of you life, you are going to be what you are right now; alone.

AC: I think i have trust issues, honestly. I’m pretty sure every person that I put trust in has left me. I have every reason to believe that I’m alone. And I have every right to feel it too. I get too dependent on people. I don’t depend on myself. So when they leave, theres nothing holding me together anymore. Without the person who kept you all together, you fall apart. It feels like its just you, no one wants you, and no one cares. That if you were to just disappear, no one would notice. Your alone.

AD: I can convince myself all i want that i have so many friends and so many people that are there for me, but the one thing i cant convince myself is that i will ever be as close to as happy as i was with him with someone else. And thats whats cuts the deepest. The fact that even if i have someone else, i will still have that empty space where he used to fit perfectly.

AC: I let someone in, and that person was there for a while. And in a second, gone. It was like the past was gone, erased like it didn’t even happen. That person brought me so much happiness, so without it, what? Sadness? Or just nothing. No feeling coming in. Loneliness. Someone who was there for so long, how could they just get up and leave? How could they leave and never come back. How could someone who cared about me so much, just not care at all. I felt so alone, for so long.

We can both promise you one thing though. You will prevail. Prevail over the feeling of loneliness. Someday that feeling will go away. And someday, that feeling of loneliness will be filled with the feeling of love again. And it takes awhile. We both know how much it sucks, and how long it takes. But that feeling does go away. When you start to believe yourself, only you can take the loneliness away. And it will happen someday. You just have to make your belief create the fact.

-Alaina Corsini and Alli D’amico write.